When you get married, two become one and you set out on the exciting journey of building a life together. You dream about the ministry you’ll have together, what your kids will look like, even the sports that they’ll play. However, there’s one thing that you probably haven’t taken the time to dream about together and it’s a whole lot more important than what sports your kids play.

How do you want to spend your golden years?

How Do You Want To Spend Your Golden Years?

What do you want to do in your 60’s, 70’s and 80’s? Do you long for the traditional retirement where you end your career to embark upon a life of leisure? What does leisure look like to you? Touring castles in Scotland or doing crafts with the grandkids?

It’s amazing how few people have taken the time to intentionally think through how they would like to spend the last third of their life. It can be hard to think of the future in that way, especially the younger you are, but it’s very important. Your plans for the future affect your behaviors today. In fact, your plans for the future should dictate today’s choices.

At What Age Do You Want To Retire?

When I’m talking to a prospective financial planning client, I always ask them at what age they want to retire because it’s a necessary data point for projections. Most people don’t know. A common answer is, “I don’t know, I haven’t really thought about it. Social Security is at 65, right? I’ll do that.” 

When you end your career is a big deal. Though as you can see, if you don’t take the time to think about it, you’ll end up letting an uninterested government agency arbitrarily determine your life plans. Ouch. When I put it that way, it doesn’t sound so good, does it? (And for most of you reading, your full Social Security retirement age is 67, not 65.) 

Do You Want To Retire?

Before you start stressing out over picking a retirement age, though, let me challenge you even further. Do you even want to retire in the traditional sense? Personally, I don’t plan on retiring. As I age, I may work less or do different things, but I think to completely stop working would be incredibly boring (I’ve already done that once when I became a mother). I’m told that’s a very Millennial and Baby Boomer attitude and Generation X still wants to retire. Either way is fine, there isn’t a right or wrong answer. 

I just want you to be intentional about it. Take some time to think outside the box and don’t just assume you’re going to stop working at age 65. There are so many things you can do in your later years. You can keep working full-time, cut back to part-time, stop working but actively volunteer, devote your time to your family, start an entirely new career or business, or even perfect your golf swing. 

Take some time to think these things through and envision your ideal retirement. If you could do anything, how would you spend your golden years? For many people, they are the most fruitful years of ministry, even if not formal, since they have so much wisdom and experience to offer the next generation.

Discuss It With Your Spouse

And now the hard part. Wait, you thought it was hard to create a vision for an unknown future? That’s just the beginning! Now you have to meld that into your spouse’s vision for the future. Hint: The sooner you start discussing this, the more time you have to work out your differences before you reach retirement age.

If you’ve been married for any significant amount of time, you’ll know that you and your spouse likely have different views on your retirement years. Even if you have the same goals, your ideas of how to accomplish them and prioritize different aspects of those goals probably differ. And that’s okay! 

Even though you’re a couple, you don’t have to do the exact same things! One of you can stay home and care for the grandchildren while the other leads short-term missions trips. One of you can keep working while the other one goes fishing, and there’s nothing wrong with that. What’s wrong is when you make assumptions instead of having conversations. Assumptions never bode well in marriage.

So, here’s your homework. Take some time to dream about how you want to spend your golden years. Share this article with your spouse so they can do the same. (If you’re single, you’re done with the homework once you have it figured out for yourself—lucky you!) Then, set a time to start discussing it. It will likely be an ongoing discussion, not something that’s addressed and solved in one sitting. Your vision will also likely continue to be shaped as you grow and your life circumstances change. That’s good, keep the discussion going. What’s not good is expecting the Social Security Administration to make major life decisions for you!