A Pastor’s Guide to Navigating a Salary Conversation

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This is a guest blog post by Ted Miller of Guardian Wealth Management. Ted was a pastor for 25 years and now operates a 403(b)(9) retirement plan for churches. 

Salary discussions can be sensitive, particularly for pastors who must balance financial needs with spiritual and communal responsibilities. Engaging in these conversations with a church board requires a thoughtful and strategic approach to ensure that both parties feel heard and respected.

The very first concern is for a pastor to evaluate and address their own insecurities. Without pride it is good to recognize one’s strengths and without shame to clearly see one’s weaknesses. In this evaluation, I have found it to be very helpful to engage the help of a friend or trusted advisor. For many years I had another successful pastor that would come to my church and provide coaching for our staff and board. This friend would help all of us to dream bigger and would inevitably help the board to think about the need for a regular salary evaluation. In the spirit of confident humility, I offer these guidelines for an effective salary conversation.

1. Prepare Thoroughly

Before approaching the board, gather all necessary information to support your case. This includes:

  • Market Research: Understand the standard salary range for pastors in similar-sized churches or geographical areas. Resources like the National Association of Church Business Administration (NACBA) or similar organizations can provide valuable benchmarks.
  • Church Finances: Review the church’s financial status, including income, expenditures, and budget forecasts. Be prepared to discuss how your salary fits within the overall financial health of the church.
  • Personal Contributions: Reflect on your accomplishments and contributions. Document specific achievements, such as growth in membership, successful programs, or community outreach initiatives, to illustrate the impact of your work.

2. Choose the Right Time

Timing is crucial in salary discussions. Ideally, bring up the topic during the board’s budget planning sessions or during annual review periods. Avoid times of financial difficulty or when the board is focused on urgent issues.

3. Frame the Conversation Positively

Approach the discussion with a positive and collaborative mindset. Instead of framing it as a demand, present it as a mutual benefit. For example:

  • Express Appreciation: Start by acknowledging the board’s support and the church’s mission. Highlight your commitment to the church and its vision.
  • Share Your Perspective: Explain how your role has evolved and how it aligns with the church’s goals. Emphasize your dedication to the church’s growth and community impact.

4. Present a Well-Reasoned Case

When discussing salary, be clear and specific:

  • Justify Your Request: Use the information you’ve gathered to explain why an adjustment is warranted. Present comparisons with similar positions and demonstrate how your salary aligns with your responsibilities and contributions.
  • Be Transparent: Discuss the current financial situation openly. If the church is facing budget constraints, suggest a phased approach or alternative compensation options, such as additional benefits or professional development opportunities.

5. Listen and Engage

Engage in a two-way dialogue:

  • Seek Feedback: Invite board members to share their perspectives and concerns. Understanding their point of view can help you address any objections and find common ground.
  • Be Flexible: Be prepared to negotiate and consider alternative solutions. If the board cannot meet your salary request immediately, discuss potential future adjustments or other forms of compensation.

6. Follow Up

After the discussion, summarize the key points and any agreements reached in writing. This ensures clarity and provides a reference for future conversations. If a decision is deferred, request a timeline for when it will be revisited.

7. Maintain Professionalism

Regardless of the outcome, maintain professionalism and gratitude. Salary discussions can be challenging, but handling them with respect and understanding strengthens your relationship with the board and reinforces your commitment to the church’s mission.

Conclusion

Discussing salary with a church board requires preparation, clear communication, and empathy. By presenting a well-reasoned case, choosing the right time, and engaging in constructive dialogue, pastors can navigate these discussions effectively. The goal is to reach a mutually agreeable solution that supports both the pastor’s needs and the church’s well-being, fostering a positive and productive working relationship.

If I can be of service to you and/or your board, please feel free to connect at Ted.miller at guardianwm.com, or (214) 501-1400 (Office).

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Don’t Let Your Kids’ Activities Kill Your Budget This Fall

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Marketers are going crazy with their back-to-school ads right now and they all have one goal: to get you to spend more money on your kids. There’s nothing wrong with spending money on your kids, I do it on a regular basis, but I believe that our culture takes it to an extreme.

 

It’s amazing how much kids activities cost and how quickly they add up. With school starting again, parents have to prepare to be nickel and dimed to death. It’s not just the gymnastics classes you were already paying for over the summer, it’s the $25 snack fee, the fundraiser that you have to participate in, the dozens of brand new #2 pencils you have to buy, and the extra cost to be in the school band. What can you do to survive the back-to-school tidal wave?

 

Ask For A Discount

If you really cannot afford something, don’t be afraid to ask for a discount. Not only do schools offer free or reduced priced meals to families who meet the income requirements, but they can also help you with or waive all of the other little fees, like for snacks and yearbooks.

 

Sports and classes also offer discounts, especially if you have more than one child participating. If you have three kids who want to do karate, the dojo is more likely to let all three attend for the price of two than to lose you as a paying customer completely. Usually, deals and discounts are not advertised, so you’ll have to suck up your pride and ask. Just say, “Do you offer any scholarships or discounts?” The worst thing that can happen is that they say no.

 

Have Them Pay

If your son wants to play flag football and you can’t fit it into your budget, have him help out. Even if they aren’t old enough for a regular job, teens and tweens can earn money babysitting, doing yard work, teaching older people how to use their electronics, and the like.

 

I remember when my older brother wanted $100 basketball shoes growing up, my parents made him pay for half. I’m sure he valued them and took better care of them than he would have if they had just been given to him. Not only can it help your budget, but it will teach your teen to work and give him the opportunity to practice the adult skill of weighing opportunity costs and making decisions.

 

Create Teachable Moments

Money is a finite resource, and the sooner we teach that to our kids, the better off they will be. When my daughter wanted to do swimming, karate, gymnastics, and play soccer, I could have just told her no. But what would that teach her?

 

Instead of simply saying no, I explained that each activity costs a lot of money. We don’t have enough money to do everything. So, she needed to pick the one thing that she wanted to do most. It taught her that money is finite and also gave her the opportunity to practice making decisions for herself.

 

When my son was selling coupon books for a fundraiser, he wanted to sell enough to win a big prize. He was disappointed that I wouldn’t just buy 10, but I wanted him to get more than just a cheap toy from it. I explained that if he really wanted the prize, he could go door to door in the neighborhood to sell the coupon books. I would go with him, but he would have to ring the doorbell and do all of the talking. It was a great learning experience for him.

 

Maintain Your Priorities

It’s easy to get caught up in all of the “needs” that kids have. Especially, when all of the other kids have the same thing, are doing the same thing, or if your child is a persistent whiner. (Remember, the Bible promotes that!) However, it’s important to keep the big picture in mind and stand your ground.

 

Eating a family meal together is very important to me, for both nutritional and relational reasons. Even if my kids show talent, I’m not going to sign them up for activities during dinner time. I’m willing to move dinner a half hour earlier or later once a week, but feeding my kids granola bars in the car while we run from one activity to the next just isn’t going to cut it with me. Family dinners are more important to me than kids’ sports.

 

It works the same way with financial priorities. If missions giving or saving for college is a priority for you, don’t give it up so that your daughter can be on a traveling soccer team. If soccer is a priority, though, by all means, put her on the team! Just know your values and establish your priorities, and make everything else submit to them. Remember, the most common regrets that parents of grown kids have are about not spending enough quality time with their kids, not that their kids missed out on certain classes or activities.

 

While back-to-school is a time of mixed emotions, don’t let anxiety over your budget be one of them. These are my suggestions, how about you? Do you have any of your own? Let us learn from you too; please share in the comments your own wisdom and experiences. Thanks!

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